Its time to move on

Listen to yourself when your instincts say its time to move on. The guy who is your boyfriend but you are not his girlfriend is not worth the time. I am sure by now you all know my views are pretty liberal, I think is ok in for a girl to call a guy if she likes him because just maybe he doesn’t know she is waiting for his call. Its okay to invite a guy on a date: go see a movie or have dinner together; this is a proactive way of getting to know if you’re really interested in more than just the face. Flirting a little to give him the confidence to walk up to you is always the way to lead him. I can think of countless ways we can initiate the dating process that in the past were seen as inappropriate behavior from a girl. On the flipside when there is zero response from a guy, don’t think twice give it up. It is time to move on as he is not interested or is pleasantly distracted by someone else. Whether it’s prior to dating or after the fact, this always seems to be the choke point for us women. Some of us just don’t know when to give it a rest. We are so emotionally attached to the time we have vested in everything we do. Its kind of like not knowing when to quit a crossword puzzle; you can only read the clues so many times. Here are a few guidelines:

If you only have a his mobile phone number,
If you have been advised not to call him at home
If you don’t know where he lives
If you are never invited to his home
If he can only see you on certain days
If you have to make an appointment to see him
If you cannot show him off in public, including to your friends and his
If he never calls you back
If he never has time to talk to you
If all he wants when he sees you is a shag
If he hasn’t the slightest interest in what you have to say
If he is always unavailable at for those special days – valentine and his birthday
If he is always away for the holidays - Christmas et al.
If he says he doesn’t want the relationship anymore

It is time to move on. You know it in our heart that there is nothing to be had there so believe in you and be strong, move on. It is true that we reap what we sow, so don’t invest your time in a relationship that sits on barren land, we are all worthy of love and joy, God has not reserved it for just a few. And think of this, a husband is not the luck of the draw, he is and will be the man you pick. So force as you may the march down the aisle, the road you will travel thereinafter will be the same. We are infinitely smarter than we give ourselves credit for.

“A man marries a woman hoping she will never change a woman marries a man hoping she can change him” -unknown